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Why Weddings are Still Important - Navigating Skepticism about Marriage

Marriage is a complex institution that has been around for centuries. For many people, weddings are an integral part of the marriage process, but there is also a growing skepticism around the role of marriage in our society. Naturally, many are questioning the patriarchal norms that are often associated with marriage, and many are skeptical about whether weddings still have a place in our modern world.

Here are some reasons why we think weddings are still important, why they’re still an essential part of our societal structure, despite growing criticism.

Ritual and Tradition

Perhaps one of the most fundamental reasons why weddings continue to be important is because they represent ritual and tradition. The practice of getting married and celebrating with a wedding is a symbolic gesture that is celebrated throughout the world. Weddings allow family and friends to come together to celebrate this momentous occasion, and this is seen as an important milestone and rite of passage in many cultures. Weddings also provide us with a sense of history and a shared story that we can pass down from generation to generation.

Setting Intentions

Setting intentions is an essential aspect of any relationship, particularly within the context of marriage. An intention is like a road map; it helps guide your actions and thought processes, and it defines the direction you desire your relationship to take. It serves as a subconscious reminder of the shared values and mutual goals that bind you and your partner together. At a wedding, when vows are exchanged, both individuals are explicitly setting their intentions for their relationship. They are openly communicating their commitment, their expectations, and their hopes for their shared future. This act of setting intentions fosters a deeper connection and understanding between the couple, solidifying their bond and aligning their visions for the journey ahead.

Solidifying Relationships

Weddings serve as a pivotal moment where two people express their commitment to one another in front of their loved ones. This public declaration of love and devotion often solidifies a couple's relationship, and it is a clear sign that they are now in a committed partnership. For many couples, it is a critical step to take before having children or building a life together. Weddings show that a couple is willing to make a public promise to one another and that they are ready to take on the challenges of life together.


One of the most significant reasons why weddings are important is that they allow us to celebrate and have fun. Weddings are chances to get together with friends and family, eat good food, drink, dance and laugh. They are joyful events that create memories that last a lifetime. A marriage is not just about the couple; it's about the people around them too. Weddings provide an opportunity for everyone to celebrate the couple and their love for one another.

Indeed, in today's fast-paced world, we often overlook opportunities to celebrate love. Weddings serve as a poignant reminder to pause, reflect, and commemorate the profound emotion that binds us all. A wedding is a celebration of love not just for the couple, but also for the love that resides within and between every guest in attendance. In a world where moments of pure joy can sometimes seem fleeting, weddings gift us with an occasion to elevate and exult in love. They remind us that love, in all its forms, is something to be cherished and celebrated.

Acknowledging Historical Issues

It is true that historically, marriage was used to control women and limit their opportunities. However, weddings today are a chance to acknowledge these historical issues and celebrate the progress that has been made over time. We can use weddings as an opportunity to celebrate equality and to celebrate the love that exists between two consenting adults. It is a chance to reject the oppressive ideas of the past and embrace a more inclusive and equal future.

The importance of marriage extends equally to queer couples, providing a platform for them to express their love and commitment to each other. In a world that has often marginalised and invalidated their experiences, a wedding can serve as a powerful declaration of their love, as authentic and profound as any other. It provides an occasion to challenge and dismantle the heteronormative assumptions that have for so long dominated the narrative of love and marriage. In celebrating queer marriages, we not only affirm the right of queer individuals to love and be loved, but we also broaden our understanding of love itself, acknowledging its diverse manifestations. Thus, queer weddings are not just celebrations of individual love stories, they are also bold statements of resistance and progress, pushing society towards greater inclusivity and acceptance.

Personal Fulfillment

Finally, weddings are important because they are a chance for personal fulfillment and growth. Weddings allow us to explore our emotions and express our love for one another. They provide us with a sense of purpose and meaning, and they create a sense of belonging. Weddings are a chance to celebrate our humanity and the bonds that we share with one another.

Weddings are significant and essential sources of ritual, commitment, love, celebration, and personal fulfillment. While some people may resist the idea of marriage, there is much more to weddings than just the institution of marriage itself. Weddings represent a shared human experience and allow us to connect with one another in profound and meaningful ways. They enable us to celebrate love and acknowledge the challenges that exist in our society. Whether you are a feminist, skeptic or simply someone who loves weddings, there are many reasons why weddings will continue to remain part of our culture.

Written by Red Kite Love
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